This type of communication is actually the manifestation of the poorly designed defense mechanisms that people use to ‘protect’ themselves from emotional attacks, emotional blackmail, aggression, etc.
In short, damaged communication happens because people have a natural aversion to being hurt, even if the hurting is happening within a romantic or intimate relationship. If a relationship is on a rocky path, one or both parties may resort to communication strategies that may be doing more harm than good.
How can you begin repairing your relationship with your spouse through better communication?
Genuine and quality communication is the fuel that keeps a relationship going. When your methods of communicating with your spouse are working, you’re in a less-than-perfect relationship but you’re both happy, content and most of all secure with the relationship.
It’s very true that a loving relationship can act as a strong pillar that you can lean on in times of person turmoil. If the relationship itself is causing the turmoil in your heart, then there’s something wrong!