1. Chronic Tunnel Vision – When a person has tunnel vision, he sees only a very narrow and limited version of reality.
Often, people with tunnel vision attribute purely negative traits and experiences to their spouses while blindly associating positive ones to anything outside the actual relationship. Below are some statements that show telltale signs of chronic tunnel vision:
“I’ve given up trying to depend on her; she’s always too busy with herself.” (Husband forgets all the times that his wife was dependable and instead he is focusing on all the times when she wasn’t able to give the type of response or support that he wanted or was expecting)
“He never spends time with me and the kids – all that matters to him is his new job.” (Wife forgets the totality of the relationship and how much her husband has invested in it, time-wise.)
2. Toxic Assumptions – A person makes toxic assumptions when he always thinks that there is a hidden motive or secret reason why another person is saying or doing something.